Candidates: If at first you don’t succeed…..how to soften the ‘no’ blow.
The fact is that only one candidate can ever get the job. Though some employers agonise over the eventual decision, rarely these days do they come back & say “We’ll take them both.”
And obviously all candidates are very disappointed when they don’t get the job & it’s evident that with all the bad job news around, there seems to be more riding on these offers than there used to be.
So how do you recover from the disappointment? How do you safeguard yourself from being duped into a depression if it’s a ‘no?’
So you get that call & YAY you’ve secured that all important interview. You go, you feel good & signs are strong. Feedback is flawless. You delivered & you’re really proud of yourself! Basically you realise you really REALLY want this job. More. Than. Anything!
Candidates clearly, must be keen on roles, but that can be Catch 22. They can fixate on the job & decide this new job will offer them a ‘way out.’ I see & hear them convincing themselves that it’s better than their current role, more salary & much nicer offices than your place….& I even hear them dreaming of the day when they can tell ‘Paul’ in Accounts to shove it!
So we’ve established you REALLY WANT the job. Stop & think though. Are you pinning your hopes, mortgage & even perhaps starting to spec out treats to buy before you know it’s in the bag? DO think of what you’ll do if you don’t get it. The crushing disappointment of not getting a job can take ages to recover from if you’re convinced you’ve got it.
And then, you get the call you’re dying to get…..& the news is “sorry but you didn’t get it” & you stunningly realise you’re not their Number one.
How’d you go back to your ‘very average life’ before that job?
Take it on the chin. Take feedback (which of course, you MUST get)& try & turn it into a positive. Easier to say rather than do, but really, if you know you’ve a habit of clamming up with nerves & its not the only time that feedback has been passed on, its time to work through it & develop some way of overcoming it.
Don’t go off radar if you don’t get the job. I occasionally get candidates that, once rejected (awful word I know), I never hear from again. Though I try & coax them out of their job seeking retirement, they’re either too fed up or embarrassed to continue their search with me. It’s pretty silly to do that as if I got you within a whisker of your dream job once…I’ll do it again.
Be robust. Take the news. Work on your feedback, dust yourself off, get back on the horse & gird your loins. The job mightn’t have been all it was cracked up to be anyway.
And remember….things happen for a reason. After all these years in recruiting I genuinely believe that.
I’m Roseanne Stockton & I successfully run Nu-Recruit Career Consultants – I place permanent & temporary candidates of the very best quality into great local employers & jobs in Liverpool, Chester & Wirral. In a no-fuss, no nonsense way.
And I love what I do.
Call me if you think my experience will help you get the best candidate for your job!
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